Should Valentine’s Day Only Be Celebrated February 14? (#3)

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Should Valentine’s Day Only Be Celebrated February 14?

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Have you noticed how we tend to be kinder and more patient and loving in our relationships around Valentine’s Day? Why can’t we extend this spirit of care and generosity to the rest of the year? Could it be that we have not explicitly defined what relationships are important in our life?

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 In this newsletter, I want to use Valentine’s Day to raise awareness of the choices we may or not be making in our life, especially those related to our close relationships, and offer a few insights on how to potentially improve such choices.

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 As outlined in my recently released book, The Business Apostolate: Insights to Define and Achieve Your Mission in Life, there are three steps you can follow to live a more meaningful life:

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Step1: Become 100 percent accountable for the decisions you make (and not make) in your life.

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Step 2: Develop and record in writing your personal mission statement.

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Step 3: Live your mission 24/7.

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Related to Step 1, my question to you is: Can you safely admit that you are 100 percent accountable for the decisions you make (and not make) regarding your close relationships? I know it takes two to tango, but are you 100 percent committed to making these relationships work? Do you play more of a receiving versus a giving role? I had an acquaintance, a widow in her 80s, who mentioned that her husband often said that he would never give her a reason to divorce him. What a great example of accountability and commitment to the most important relationship in this man’s life.

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Moving to Step 2, have you recorded in writing where your close relationships rate versus other priorities in your life? The absence of a written personal mission statement maymean you are leaving the priorities in your life to chance. You may be relying on your intuition, current state of mind or, worse yet, on somebody else’s priorities or value system. Why not explicitly record in your personal mission statement the priorities in your life and, in particular, the priority you want to assign to your close relationships?

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As suggested in Step 3, how can you live those choices and maintain those priorities in your close relationships 24/7? How can you make every day Valentine’s Day for those close to you?  My role model for this was my father. One of the life lessons I shared in his eulogy speech three years ago was how much he visibly loved my mom. There was no doubt in my mind that she was his number-one priority in life, above his two children, his mother, siblings, work, sports, friends, etc. He kept the love flame burning with little things, such as constantly bringing her flowers, opening the car door for her, and never, to my knowledge, raising his voice to her. 

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I hope the three steps and insights outlined here help you practice your accountability by defining what is important in your life and then living those choices every day.  

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I want to close this newsletter with a Persian proverb: “Thinking well is wise; planning well, wiser; doing well wisest and best of all.” Persevere in defining what is important in your life and in living according to these choices 24/7. As you embark on this journey, count on me to help you succeed.

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In the next newsletter, I will cover how to identify those situations where there is something in your personal life that may not be allowing you to give your best at work. Stay tuned!

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Percy M. Cannon\nAuthor, Business Consultant and Professional Coach\nwww.cannonbalance.com\nwww.thebusinessapostolate.com

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